I’m going to go a different route today with my writing because I have been having something weighing heavily upon my heart and I want to see if I am the only one who feels this way.
We all have seen the benefits of social media and I am sure we all use it everyday to stay connected with people. Everywhere you look you find people looking at their phones and checking on status updates. Just this morning, I was dropping my son off at school and I noticed the man behind me snapping a picture of him and his son and posting it right to Facebook. You can’t even have a full conversation with somebody without them checking their phones. I began to get very irritated when I noticed how consumed we are to a “fantasy world.” There is a side of social media that I began to see that I don’t like at all. I’m not saying that social media is bad, and I’m not saying that I won’t use social media; however, I began to get convicted of the amount of time I spent on social media.
I found myself glued to some type of computer device. I had access to social media on my computer, my tablet, and my phone. It went with me everywhere—-to the resteraunts, the stores, visiting relatives, my children’s sporting events, and dates with my wonderful husband. If I posted a comment, I had to check to see how many likes or shares it had. And if there weren’t many likes, I would get upset because nobody must like me. Now come on, I’m sure I’m not the only one who has thought this way. If we are not careful, we can begin a downward spiral of depression because we are too busy comparing our lives to the lives of others. When will we learn that not very many people are going to post the negative aspects of their lives? Most people aren’t that candid or real. I do have a few friends on Facebook who are real and I appreciate them so much. Nothing is hidden, and I love that about them.
When I began to realize what social media was doing to me, I began to feel convicted and ashamed. I was ashamed because I realized that I was forgetting to live in the here and now and forgetting to enjoy the beauty all around me. I noticed that chores were not being done as thoroughly as they should be. I noticed more anxiety because I was just sitting there not doing anything. I noticed the missed hockey goal, or the race being won because I was on Facebook posting how well the kids were doing. I noticed the missed conversations with my husband because we were too busy checking our accounts. And I noticed the spiritual hunger rising up within me bacause I was more concerned about what my “friends” were doing rather than what my God was doing. The bible studies became shorter, and the prayers became shorter…. all because of my obsession with social media. The music in my heart was gone. I didn’t play my piano as much and the songs stopped being written all because I was spending too much time on the computer. I had to get something done. What would have happened if I would have continued spiralling down this road? I’m afraid to see.
I began to wonder what our society would be like if we reached for our Bibles as much as we reached for our phones. Would things be different? Would we be a nation that once again feared God? I guess we will never know. But I do know what I am going to do. I have closed my Twitter account and my Instagram account. I even took Facebook off of my phone. It will be checked once in the morning and once in the evening. I am no longer going to be so caught up in other people’s lives that I forget to live my own. I am doing my Bible study before I check anything on the computer. God will be first and foremost in my life. I have chosen to give my family my full, undivided attention. They will not suffer for todays technology. Strangers will see my face, and not my head being bent down looking at my phone. I have chosen to live.
If you have seen a similar pattern in your own life, I encourage you to make changes now. Don’t wait until it is too late. Begin to live your life today in the here and now because you will not get these moments again.